What Do You Need To Feel Good? (Part 2)

Significance and connection

In an earlier post I spent some time looking at basic human needs – what we seek in order to feel good. Tony Robbins describes the first two needs as being certainty and uncertainty. The second pair of human needs according to Robbins is significance and connection. Significance sets us apart, marks us out as individuals, helps us to define and to describe the boundaries of us and what makes us special. One of our first roles as growing babies […]

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What Do You Need To Feel Good? (Part 1)

Man and a Woman Smiling

As human beings we have many needs – food, drink, shelter, friendship… Generally, when our needs are being met we are healthier and happier than when they’re not. At a more complex level we might think more money, better prospects or a new job are what we need. As we approach the New Year, many people begin to look for opportunities to focus on getting more of what they want. Fortunately, different people want different things – a bigger challenge, […]

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Why Coaching Works

Thought bubble what if...

Who believes in you more than you do? I trained as a Coach over 10 years ago and have worked with hundreds of clients over the years. Throughout this time I’ve also found it helpful to work with a selection of Coaches myself, not continuously but frequently. I’ve particularly chosen to be coached through times when I knew I was stretching myself, expanding, growing. For me there are two major reasons I choose to work with a Coach: Focus Becoming […]

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Life’s messy – what next?

You’ve heard it said: it never rains but it pours… When the unexpected or unfortunate breaks into your life, what’s your general response? Are you more likely to roll with “Life’s messy – love it!” or do you think “Messy? Time to clear up!” My last two weeks have been busy. Not only was work fairly full-on (several workshops, lots of coaching and a fair few miles to travel) but, in between, life happened; family sickness, GP appointments and, to […]

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What Really Makes You Feel Good?

boy focussed on writing in notebook

The pursuit of happiness seems to be a 21st century obsession. Often we chase security, adventure, influence, money, status, relationships – or not. Frequently things like gadgets, shoes, books, cars… All these and more are things we think will make us happy. Yet, in and of themselves, they are not happiness. Certainly, money helps. Yet once we get above what it takes to live comfortably in our society or our social circle, the amount of money we have is a […]

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Lessons from your life

I was working with a new coach last week who was trying to understand what motivated me… we started by working through a life map or lifeline activity – I’ve described this previously and it’s a seriously good tool. One thing that really struck me this time round was recalling an event when I must have been just eleven years old. I had taken my end of year exams and just learned that I had scored 98 out of 100 […]

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Should I get up and leave now?

Community choir singing

Imposter feelings – where you seriously doubt whether you are good enough to be there – are surprisingly resilient. I got a fresh shot of panic, insecurity and inadequacy this week. As part of a local community choir I was learning, along with the 40 or so other members, a new song in four-part harmony. As I struggled to memorise a new melody and failed to hold the harmony when the other parts wove in and out of my line […]

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Boost Confidence & Reduce Stress in just 2 minutes

Cartoon of cogs working in a brain

Your mind affects, maybe even controls your body. Probably not news. We can also prove that your body affects your mind, how you feel, how you behave. Would you like to see how? Amy Cuddy is a social psychologist who has done just that and you can benefit from this knowledge within the next two minutes. We often read that an awareness of body language is important because it influences how other people think about you… but does your posture […]

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The Secret to Standing Strong In Public

Baby hiding face behind hands

Many of us struggle – when we stand on stage and share our stories, when giving a conference presentation, when we stand in public to ask a question or give an opinion. We often struggle when we share our experience and fear to call it wisdom or when we sell our services and dare to ask for a price. In many of these situations we report feeling highlly vulnerable and anticipation of that feeling is more than enough to stop […]

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Fear Less Rejection

Firework exploding in night sky

It’s  the time of year when many things are starting again. I know it’s September and autumn is upon us but I’ve spent so much of my time in academic circles that this feels like just the right time for new beginnings; a new term, new students, new courses to teach and yes, new business to create. Even as a researcher, if I’m looking to submit a grant application early in the new year, this is the time to get […]

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