What are you measuring?

Measure a heart

If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!Driving while listening to the news on my car radio last week I was struck as a government minister urged us, as a nation, to work harder. If we want to compete in the global market with giants like China, Korea and the USA, apparently we’re just not working hard enough. My heart sank. The interviewer then went on to compare the average number of […]

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Comparison – are you good enough?

At the start line

I found myself watching an episode of the American crime drama Rizzoli and Ayles. The opening sequence presents a number of images representing the growth and development of the two major protagonists, Jane Rizzoli and Moira Ayles. Early in their careers (before they became this crime-fighting duo) they were both successful and lauded, graduating early, first in their class, obviously destined for great success right from the start… And the surprising discovery for me was the realisation that, as I […]

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Women in senior positions – what is holding you back?

Man and Woman share a "high 5" success

While I was a researcher working my way up through the ranks and now, as a coach working with women in various organisations, I see again and again, the very male dominated ranks of senior management groups. Why is this? Over the years many possible reasons have been put forward – women weren’t good enough, weren’t tough enough, preferred family over career, would get there in equal numbers just as soon as the pipeline flowed through… Each of these has been […]

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On starting a new PhD

Thought bubble what if...

It’s that time of year again when academic engines are gearing up for a new intake of students, for the new year groups to settle in and for new research students to start their programmes. For most of us, staff and students alike it can be a mixture of excitement and apprehension. I find that no matter how well I prepare there’s always a rush to the start line accompanied by a little more work than I thought it would […]

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Where would you like to be in 3 months time?

Ok, so you’ve done the “first day back at work” thing? How did it go? Would you say that you had a productive day? I bet there were loads of emails to deal with, a few papers to file or tidy-up, a number of “Oh, that’s what I was doing!” moments and of course, catching up with stories of what your colleagues did over Christmas and New Year. What about day 2, was it better? OK, I guess you didn’t […]

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What Do You Need to Feel Good? (Part 3)

Confident star pose

Tony Robbins distills the basic human needs that drive our behaviour into two opposing – or complementing – pairs: certainty and uncertainty, significance and connection. The need for certainty is balanced by a need for uncertainty. The dividing line where we feel comfortable with this is very personal and often dynamic. There are some uncertainties that are more comfortable than others – waiting to unwrap Christmas presents is often a sweet temptation, especially for children though adults are not immune. […]

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What Do You Need To Feel Good? (Part 2)

Significance and connection

In an earlier post I spent some time looking at basic human needs – what we seek in order to feel good. Tony Robbins describes the first two needs as being certainty and uncertainty. The second pair of human needs according to Robbins is significance and connection. Significance sets us apart, marks us out as individuals, helps us to define and to describe the boundaries of us and what makes us special. One of our first roles as growing babies […]

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What Do You Need To Feel Good? (Part 1)

Man and a Woman Smiling

As human beings we have many needs – food, drink, shelter, friendship… Generally, when our needs are being met we are healthier and happier than when they’re not. At a more complex level we might think more money, better prospects or a new job are what we need. As we approach the New Year, many people begin to look for opportunities to focus on getting more of what they want. Fortunately, different people want different things – a bigger challenge, […]

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Building networks, making connections

The human brain is an amazing thing. Maybe 86 billion individual cells, each capable of making up to 10,000 different connections with other cells. The complexity of this network is currently beyond our capacity to map and it is probably what makes each one of us unique as an individual. Yet, despite the fact we perceive ourselves as individuals, our own brains in our own bodies, we are made for connection and relationship, yes, even the most extreme introverts out […]

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Why Coaching Works

Thought bubble what if...

Who believes in you more than you do? I trained as a Coach over 10 years ago and have worked with hundreds of clients over the years. Throughout this time I’ve also found it helpful to work with a selection of Coaches myself, not continuously but frequently. I’ve particularly chosen to be coached through times when I knew I was stretching myself, expanding, growing. For me there are two major reasons I choose to work with a Coach: Focus Becoming […]

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